For your Own Good

For your Own Good

Hidden Cruelty in Child-rearing and the Roots of Violence

Paperback - 2002
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Alice Miller examines the backgrounds of several extreme cases of self-destructive individuals to illustrate the long-term consequences of abusive child-rearing. Her conclusions come into conflict with psychoanalytic dogma about human nature, which she is vehemently opposed to. Copyright © Libri GmbH. All rights reserved.
Published: New York : Farrar, Straus and Giroux, 2002.
Edition: 4th ed.
ISBN: 9780374528430
Branch Call Number: 649.1 MIL 4TH ED.
Characteristics: xxv, 283 p. ;,23 cm.


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