This Is How It Always Is

This Is How It Always Is

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"This is Claude. He's five years old, the youngest of five brothers. He also loves peanut butter sandwiches. He also loves wearing a dress, and dreams of being a princess.When he grows up, Claude says, he wants to be a girl. Rosie and Penn want Claude to be whoever Claude wants to be. They're just not sure they're ready to share that with the world. Soon the entire family is keeping Claude's secret. Until one day it explodes."--
Published: New York :, Flatiron Books,, 2017.
Edition: First edition.
Copyright Date: ©2017
ISBN: 9781250088550
1250088550
Branch Call Number: F FRA
Characteristics: 327 pages ;,25 cm

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blue_rabbit_2174
Nov 20, 2020

This was a great book! Claude reminds me of one of my very best friends in kindergarten. Claude like his dress and my friend wore a rapunzel dress on come as your favorite character day. A truly beautiful story!

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Bklvr1981
Oct 30, 2020

Ok read. I felt like for the topic of the book, it could have been a little more exciting. I didn't care for the author's overall voice throughout the book...I felt like she was trying to hard to be witty, funny and it didn't come naturally.

JCLCatherineG Aug 26, 2020

This was a wonderful story about transgender, family, and society! If you have the ability to listen to it, I highly recommend it. The narrator is excellent.

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Einer2
Aug 23, 2020

A book that should be read and in a more perfect world understood by all. Don't we all need to be a bit middle at some times.

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meechandcrow
Apr 25, 2020

I didn't want this book to end...like a fairy tale, a real life fairy tale it was ssoooooooo good. I need a sequel although we all know sequels are never ever as good as the original....

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SusanJFerguson
Mar 24, 2020

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gillescoughlan
Jan 25, 2020

As someone who has friends who are trans-gendered, it was nice to read something that reflected their reality. However, at times it felt a little too didactic - like when the parents discuss options for the future. I'm sure it reflects the reality of family with trans members, but it felt a bit like it was trying to educate the public. That said, it was generally a good read and a good story.

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tobyfear
Dec 28, 2019

Loved this book

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mkkondrath
Dec 13, 2019

This is one of the best books I've ever read. Although it's a work of fiction, there is such "realness" to each of the characters and the story it tells. Whether or not one agrees with the choices made by this family, none of their decisions are made in haste, but only with loving consideration for each other.

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selenium_dove_3
Dec 07, 2019

Amazing. Fantastic. The love is palpable in this thrumming, electrifying read. I'm beyond words. I don't often love books as much as I love this one, but when I do... READ THIS BOOK, okay? The romance of Rosie and Penn, the sibling love and sibling care between all the kids, all of it hums with love. You can tell that the author truly loves and cares about her characters, and that is something to behold. The deft, wise, twists of the plot, and the solemn yet playful narrative voice throughout is wonderful. I'm almost tempted to compare this author to J.K. Rowling, because the excellent plotline and rich, deep, voice, require just as much finesse.
I laughed, I cried, and I smiled throughout.

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asamandalouise
Apr 14, 2019

From the author's note:
"I wish for my child, for all our children, a world where they can be who they are and become their most loved, blessed, appreciated selves. I've rewritten that sentence a dozen times, and it never gets less cheesy, I suppose because that's the answer to my question. That's what's true. For my child, for all our children, I want more options, more paths through the woods, wider ranges of normal, and unconditional love. Who doesn't want that? I know this book will be controversial, but honestly? I keep forgetting why.

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asamandalouise
Apr 14, 2019

Penn agree. "Not ever. Not once. You never know. You only guess. This is how it always is. You have to make these huge decisions on behalf of your kid, this tiny human whose fate and future is entirely in your hands, who trusts you to know what's good and right and then to be able to make that happen. You never have enough information. You don't get to see the future. And if you screw up, if with your incomplete, contradictory information you make the wrong call, well, nothing less than your child's entire future and happiness is at stake. It's impossible. It's heartbreaking. It's maddening. But there's no alternative."

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asamandalouise
Apr 14, 2019

"Easy is nice, but it's not as good as getting to be who you are or stand up for what you believe in," said Penn. "Easy is nice, but I wonder how often it leads to fulfilling work or partnership or being." "easy probably rules out having children," Rosie admitted. "Having children, helping people, making art, inventing anything, leading the way, tackling the world's problems, overcoming your own. I don't know. Not much of what I value in our lives is easy. But there's not much of it I'd trade for easy either, I don't think." "But it's terrifying," she whispered. "If it were the right thing to do, wouldn't we know it?" "When was the last time something was bothering one of the kids or he was acting strange or he wasn't sleeping or doing well in math or sharing nicely during free-choice time, and we knew why?" "Knew why?" Rosie said. "Knew why. Absolutely knew what was wrong and what should be done to fix it and how to make that happen." "As a parent?" "As a parent." "Never?" "Never,"

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