Maybe You Should Talk to Someone

Maybe You Should Talk to Someone

A Therapist, Her Therapist, and Our Lives Revealed

Book - 2019
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"From a New York Times best-selling author, psychotherapist, and national advice columnist, a hilarious, thought-provoking, and surprising new book that takes us behind the scenes of a therapist's world--where her patients are looking for answers (and so is she)"--
"One day, Lori Gottlieb is a therapist who helps patients in her Los Angeles practice. The next, a crisis causes her world to come crashing down. Enter Wendell, the quirky but seasoned therapist in whose office she suddenly lands. With his balding head, cardigan, and khakis, he seems to have come straight from Therapist Central Casting. Yet he will turn out to be anything but. As Gottlieb explores the inner chambers of her patients' lives--a self-absorbed Hollywood producer, a young newlywed diagnosed with a terminal illness, a senior citizen threatening to end her life on her birthday if nothing gets better, and a twenty-something who can't stop hooking up with the wrong guys--she finds that the questions they are struggling with are the very ones she is now bringing to Wendell. With startling wisdom and humor, Gottlieb invites us into her world as both clinician and patient, examining the truths and fictions we tell ourselves and others as we teeter on the tightrope between love and desire, meaning and mortality, guilt and redemption, terror and courage, hope and change. [This book] is revolutionary in its candor, offering a deeply personal yet universal tour of our hearts and minds and providing the rarest of gifts: a boldly revealing portrait of what it means to be human, and a disarmingly funny and illuminating account of our own mysterious lives and our power to transform them. "--Dust jacket.
Gottlieb, a therapist with a Los Angeles practice, faced a crisis that caused her world to come crashing down. Enter Wendell, the quirky but seasoned therapist who seems to have come straight from Therapist Central Casting. Yet he will turn out to be anything but. Now Gottlieb invites us into her world as both clinician and patient, examining the truths and fictions we tell ourselves and others as we teeter on the tightrope between love and desire, meaning and mortality, guilt and redemption, terror and courage, hope and change. -- adapted from jacket
Published: Boston :, Houghton Mifflin Harcourt,, 2019.
Copyright Date: ©2019
ISBN: 9781328662057
1328662055
Branch Call Number: 616.8914 GOT
Characteristics: xi, 415 pages ;,24 cm

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DBRL_AlyssaW Jan 05, 2020

“Don’t judge your feelings; notice them. Use them as your map. Don’t be afraid of the truth.”

“We tend to think that the future happens later, but we're creating it in our minds every day. When the present falls apart, so does the future we had associated with it. And having the future taken away is the mother of all plot twists.”


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Lori Gottlieb’s Maybe You Should Talk to Someone ended up being a great look at how therapy works from both the practitioner’s point of view and from her patient’s standpoints. While this often feels like a creative non fiction work more than a recitation of fact, I found this narrative style appealed to me a lot more than, say, an academic treatment would. There were countless insights that needed highlighting and sticky tabbing and revisiting and I wish I had more time with it to do so. Gottlieb’s book covers heavy topics throughout such as mortality, self sabotage and vulnerability (among others) and I found her openness on these topics refreshing and satisfying. Overall, this is a great blend of storytelling, indirect self-help and informative and straightforward writing.

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taylorsmith2_0
Mar 08, 2021

I struggled to like this book because there was a little too much overly sensitive navel gazing for me. I almost put it down after the first few chapters, but decided to proceed to the end because I had seen so many good reviews for it. There were a few scattered chapters that I felt did offer some really interesting ideas about the theories behind psychotherapy - why it works and why sometimes it doesn't. I could barely stand the author's chapters about "boyfriend" following their breakup, but the sessions with a young thirty-something cancer patient were very eye opening.

Oppressively boring, dense writing and the nadir of professional introspection of a psychotherapy practice.

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jujensen
Nov 13, 2020

Started Nov 3/20, finished Nov 13/20.

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ellenorndorf
Sep 26, 2020

I read this for book club. It wasn't a great discussion read but we were still meeting via Zoom due to COVID. Coworker Lauren passed it along to me. I read it just as dad was dying I found it a really good read especially during that difficult time.

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rmshields
Sep 08, 2020

Makes me want to go to therapy! Sounds fun

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LESeymour
Jul 16, 2020

This has FLOORED me. The amount of information, mostly in brilliant quotes, has dazzled me. The case histories and the insight of the author's personal therapy is something that opened me to changes being possible in my miserable little life!

Hope reading this book is a gift to you as well, whoever you are.

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lindemuldercr
Jun 17, 2020

Non fiction novel - modern Mrs Darcy

meeshmorgan May 17, 2020

WOW! An incredibly amazing, spectacular book; it's the best I've read in DECADES!
This book has so many layers . . . On the surface are terms and vocabulary I've needed for years, then there is the story of Ms. Gottlieb's search for therapy, the stories of some of her clients, and a look at the underpinnings of psychology practice, all of which are fascinating.
I'm not a very emotional person, but I found myself so moved I had to stop reading in order to absorb my feelings and clear the tears from my eyes.
I am dumbfounded by the depth of empathy good psychologists find based on the thin premise that a client is asking for help when most of us might want to slap the person and tell them to 'grow up'. This would obviously backfire and exacerbate the problem.
This book is compellingly written by a gifted writer and can be life-changing. It is one that stays with you long after reading it. I'm telling everyone I know how excited I am to have read this. ANYONE can use this book, EVERYONE should!

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kristadarling
May 14, 2020

I think people could consider this a "slow" read because yes, it is telling stories of patients and her own therapist visits but its also giving us therapeutic insight all at once. The type of insights therapy patients take in one week at a time and we as readers get all at once which might turn "overwhelming" to "slow" since we have to sit with thought and not plot. That being said, I think it was beautifully human. It made me cry, laugh and honestly sit with myself while seeing myself in these individuals. I would highly recommend.

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JCLJessW Feb 04, 2021

“Relationships in life don't really end, even if you never see the person again. Every person you've been close to lives on somewhere inside you. Your past lovers, your parents, your friends, people both alive and dead (symbolically or literally)--all of them evoke memories, conscious or not.”

JCLJessW Feb 04, 2021

“Between stimulus and response there is a space. In that space is our power to choose our response. In our response lies our growth and our freedom.”

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