Maybe You Should Talk to Someone

Maybe You Should Talk to Someone

A Therapist, Her Therapist, and Our Lives Revealed

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"From a New York Times best-selling author, psychotherapist, and national advice columnist, a hilarious, thought-provoking, and surprising new book that takes us behind the scenes of a therapist's world--where her patients are looking for answers (and so is she)"--
"One day, Lori Gottlieb is a therapist who helps patients in her Los Angeles practice. The next, a crisis causes her world to come crashing down. Enter Wendell, the quirky but seasoned therapist in whose office she suddenly lands. With his balding head, cardigan, and khakis, he seems to have come straight from Therapist Central Casting. Yet he will turn out to be anything but. As Gottlieb explores the inner chambers of her patients' lives--a self-absorbed Hollywood producer, a young newlywed diagnosed with a terminal illness, a senior citizen threatening to end her life on her birthday if nothing gets better, and a twenty-something who can't stop hooking up with the wrong guys--she finds that the questions they are struggling with are the very ones she is now bringing to Wendell. With startling wisdom and humor, Gottlieb invites us into her world as both clinician and patient, examining the truths and fictions we tell ourselves and others as we teeter on the tightrope between love and desire, meaning and mortality, guilt and redemption, terror and courage, hope and change. [This book] is revolutionary in its candor, offering a deeply personal yet universal tour of our hearts and minds and providing the rarest of gifts: a boldly revealing portrait of what it means to be human, and a disarmingly funny and illuminating account of our own mysterious lives and our power to transform them. "--Dust jacket.
Gottlieb, a therapist with a Los Angeles practice, faced a crisis that caused her world to come crashing down. Enter Wendell, the quirky but seasoned therapist who seems to have come straight from Therapist Central Casting. Yet he will turn out to be anything but. Now Gottlieb invites us into her world as both clinician and patient, examining the truths and fictions we tell ourselves and others as we teeter on the tightrope between love and desire, meaning and mortality, guilt and redemption, terror and courage, hope and change. -- adapted from jacket
Published: Boston :, Houghton Mifflin Harcourt,, 2019.
Copyright Date: ©2019
ISBN: 9781328662057
1328662055
Branch Call Number: 616.8914 GOT
Characteristics: xi, 415 pages ;,24 cm

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DBRL_AlyssaW Jan 05, 2020

“Don’t judge your feelings; notice them. Use them as your map. Don’t be afraid of the truth.”

“We tend to think that the future happens later, but we're creating it in our minds every day. When the present falls apart, so does the future we had associated with it. And having the future taken away is the mother of all plot twists.”


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BPLpicks Feb 22, 2020

This is a memoir of a successful therapist who seeks therapy herself after a bad breakup. At turns funny and emotional, Gottlieb relates insightful anecdotes from both sides of the proverbial couch. Fears, anxieties, regrets, and all the not-so-pretty sides of being human are presented intimately and honestly. A compelling look at the therapeutic process.

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crparker78
Feb 19, 2020

Eye opening, made me cry (a rare occurence).

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reinelune
Feb 14, 2020

Started, couldn't renew on wanted list. Try chapter 20 to resume?

ArapahoeKristy Feb 13, 2020

I enjoyed this mix of the author telling her own story as well as relating those of some of her patients. There is humor, honesty, growth, and sometimes resistance to growth throughout the telling of these experiences. I read this on my own but think it would be an interesting book club read.

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Christine55416
Feb 08, 2020

I read this for book club. Great insight on what it's like to be a therapist, and to see the therapist go through her own personal therapy. Lots of interesting patient stories and seems to be at least a few stories that everyone relates to. Worth the read.

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2303tes
Jan 18, 2020

Patients stories seemed believable and took time to work to a solution.
Each was a small storey in itself. I really enjoyed this book especially the
sharing which led to human connections.
Was able to put it down and pick it up later.

CCPL_Carly Jan 15, 2020

In a candid and funny voice, this therapy memoir gives an insider's view of how therapy works (or in some cases, doesn't). Lori's patients, carefully shielded in anonymity, turn out to be versions of people readers might recognize in their own lives. Though the focus here is on therapy and mental health, this book should also appeal to self-help readers.

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dupree905
Jan 14, 2020

interesting book and further evidence we're not as okay or in control as you'd expect. In a world that's increasing with anxiety and depression stats, things should be changing to reflect. Check it out.

knitsewrainbow Jan 09, 2020

Hands down, this is the best non-fiction book of 2020. Ok, I know the year has just begun, and how dare I have the audacity to choose a favorite already? I DARE. Gottlieb is an incredible narrator. She is so very human and honest in her storytelling. And I can't help but think she must be one heck of an amazing therapist. I've read many, many true stories about psychologists and mental health and this is right up there with the best of them - A Shining Affliction and Smoking Cigarettes, Eating Glass come to mind. Furthermore, in some ways this book is more accessible because Gottlieb's problems are yours and mine. She's struggling with all the the same things we struggle with - our mortality, breakups, middle age, parenting, our parent's mortality. But she does so with great care and insight. She is genuine and open about unflattering thoughts and actions that make her relate-able and reliable as a narrator. And she shows us, not for the first time in history, but perhaps in the most refreshingly honest and simultaneously caring way what it's like to sit on the other side of the room in therapy and how to be with all kinds of people and situations. This books is for everyone. Read it, make your social worker friend read it, and buy a copy for your own therapist.

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lenoragoessling
Jan 04, 2020

Amazon Bookstore in UVillage Date with Sam over Christmas. Also, Jessa Hoffman brought this as her bookclub book exchange.

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